Mediation is a voluntary and confidential (with some exceptions) process. Family Mediation specifically is for couples looking for separation or divorce.

Mediators are specially trained to help people work together to reach a resolution to a dispute that is acceptable to everyone involved.

Mediators are impartial and neutral. They do not have the power to make decisions about the case or impose a resolution.  They are not able to provide any legal advice (even if the mediator is a lawyer). Instead, their role is to ensure that the discussion remains focused, organized and respectful. They are experts in making negotiations work.

A mediation can explore small issues or it can be used to negotiate all aspects of separation. 

Mediation is not an option for everyone.

It is not appropriate when there is a large power imbalance between the parties; this includes violence, coercion,  intimidation,  child abuse or neglect.  The Mediator may deem the process inappropriate at this time and suggest another pathway.

Mediation promotes constructive communication, helping to reduce hostility and tension.  Unlike court rulings where a judge makes the final decision, mediation empowers families to create solutions that work best for their unique needs and circumstances. Mediation allows for personalized agreements tailored to each family’s needs and circumstances, rather than relying on rigid legal rulings that may not fit their situation well.  There are no winners in the court process.  Meditation encourages parents to prioritize their children’s well being, fostering cooperative parenting plans that minimize emotional stress for the children involved. 

Mediation is less adversarial, less stressful and less expensive than going to court.  It is a voluntary, in good faith  process whereby parties are committing to engaging in respectful and open negotiations. Research shows that families that have engaged mediators are usually more satisfied with both the process and the outcome than people who use the courts to resolve their disputes. Court cases can take years to resolve whereas mediation often leads to quicker agreements. 

Mediation is meant to be a more accessible and cost-effective alternative to litigation.  While you don’t “need” a lawyer, seeking legal advice before finalizing an agreement and submitting it to the court is highly encouraged and recommended. Lawyers can help their clients understand the law and make informed decisions. 

Only a lawyer may give you legal advice. A mediator cannot give legal advice at any time and does not represent either party.

Before I  meet with you together I  meet with each of you individually for an intake session. This is an opportunity for me to get to know you both individually, to learn what your unique concerns are and to uncover any underlying issues that may present challenges in the mediation.  This can also determine whether mediation is a good fit for your family. 

The individual meetings are confidential and the information within those meetings will not be shared unless advised otherwise.The number of hours or sessions in a mediation will be unique for every situation. It may be a simple 2 hour session to review the issues that you have agreed upon. It may be several sessions to resolve more complex and/or emotionally charged issues. It always depends on the willingness of the parties to settle, including their cooperation with one another and of course the issues involved. This said, the more issues you agree on, the quicker the process!

There are different approaches to mediation: traditional and shuttle.  In shuttle mediation, the parties are kept in separate rooms (or locations when done virtually) and the mediator moves between them to relay messages, offers and counteroffers. The choice between the two depends on the nature of the issues, each parties’  personal  comfort and level of communication between the parties.  We will talk about the options and find the best option for you and your circumstances.

Facilitating Open Communication:

Mediation provides a structured environment for parents to discuss their concerns, needs, and ideas regarding their children, fostering a more open and honest dialogue.

Promoting Cooperation:

The goal is to move beyond adversarial positions and encourage parents to work together to create a plan that benefits the children.

Prioritizing the Child's Best Interests:

All decisions and agreements should be made with the child's well-being as the primary focus.

Creating a Stable and Positive Co-Parenting Environment:

A well-crafted parenting plan, developed through mediation, can help reduce conflict and foster a more stable and positive environment for the children.

Developing a Mutually Agreeable Parenting Plan:

The goal is to reach a comprehensive agreement that addresses all aspects of decision making responsibility, parenting time, and other relevant issues.

Reducing Conflict:

Mediation aims to minimize conflict between parents, which can have a positive impact on the child's emotional well-being.

Saving Time and Money:

Resolving issues through mediation can be faster and less expensive than going to court.

Empowering Parents:

Mediation empowers parents to make their own decisions about their children's lives, rather than having those decisions made by a court.

Focusing on the Future:

Mediation helps parents look ahead and create a plan that will support their children's needs as they grow.

Exploring Schedule Ideas:

Mediation can help parents explore different scheduling options and find a plan that works for their family.

Effective Communication Strategies:

Mediation can help parents develop effective communication strategies to ensure clear and respectful communication about their children.

Confidentiality:

Mediation provides a confidential space for parents to discuss sensitive issues openly.

Evening and weekend appointments can be arranged as needed.  I understand the complexities of juggling work, children and other demands, especially under these difficult circumstances.  My hope is to make this process as easy and as accessible as possible for you.  I am conveniently located in central Toronto should you wish in person appointments.  

Otherwise, the use of a virtual platform can provide numerous advantages. Virtual mediation offers benefits like cost and time savings through reduced travel, enhanced accessibility for diverse locations and situations, and increased comfort and safety in familiar environments.   The choice will be yours.